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Then one foggy Christmas Eve, Santa came to say: “Rudolph with your nose so bright, won’t you guide my sleigh tonight?
Then how the reindeer loved him, as they shouted out with glee, Rudolph the red-nosed reindeer, you’ll go down in history.
A few weeks ago, I asked a group of teachers and administrators, “What did it take for the other reindeer to love Rudolph?”
They answered, “He used his gifts” and “He served the others.”
“But, why did they love him?”
“Because he led their sleigh, he loved them first.”
“But, what is their love for Rudolph based on?”
“What he did for them…”
This conversation scared me. Usually when I ask a group about Rudolph and why he was loved (after making them sing the song!) they catch quickly that the reindeer’s love for Rudolph was based on performance. They loved because of something Rudolph did for them. And, the teachers usually think how horrible it would be if their students acted like the reindeer in the song, calling names and earning love.
It scared me because I had to bluntly tell them that the love was performance based. They weren’t seeing it. This love was a transaction, “you do this and I will do this for you.”
They didn’t see a problem in earned love. At least in the beginning of our conversation.
These are folks who are serving children in schools. This isn’t judging this group, this is a warning to me and to many of us that we live in a world of earned love, where everything is a transaction. It is easy to sing “Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer” and not think of its subversion and distortion of love, God’s way.
Earned love is the plague of our day. We are infected, and sometimes pass the disease to others without knowing we are carriers.
Love, God’s way, the love in John 3:16, has nothing to do with performance. God did not love the world because He liked the world or the world did something good. He loves the world, and us, despite ourselves, not because of ourselves.
This is the love God bases His entire economy on. Unconditional. Sacrificial. A commitment more than a feeling. Doing the best for another person, without necessarily liking them or what they say or do. It appears foolish and reckless. It is giving without getting.
In a world of earned love, our children, at home and school, desperately need this agapao love, this love God’s way.
A Love That Changes Lives
This type of love changes lives, it transcends boundaries and breaks into hearts. It can’t be held back by walls, personal or cultural. This is the type of love God has for us, and that motivated God to become a man and be born a baby. It is God choosing the best for us, simply because He loves us.
We can only love students the way God wants, freely and without earning it, if we know we are loved. John says “We love because He first loved us.” He loved us freely and without condition.
I hope that I can love freely, without condition. I hope we can love every student in every seat, with the same overflowing and free love that God has for us, to each child regardless. We discipline, out of love because it is best for the child. We hug both those who love back and those don’t know how to love back, because sometimes that is what is needed. But above all, our reckless and committed love is felt and known by each child.
I hope that we can know we are loved this way. I hope we can pause enough over Christmas break to feel God’s love for each of us, His commitment to each of us that transcends transactions and is based on nothing we do or say, but based on Him only and His choice to love you and me.
Our students should never feel they have to lead the sleigh to be loved. Our world is saturated with this performance based love. Our classrooms and our schools should be sanctuaries, where real love is known and overflows, doing what is best for each child without end.
We should never feel we have to lead the sleigh to be loved. Sadly, we do sometimes. But, not from God. I hope you can rest in Him and know His free love to you.
Don’t let what happened to Rudolph happen in your world. Earned love is always grasping and groveling. It is everywhere.
Unconditional love is rare, it breaks down any barrier and opens hearts. Love God’s way.
(We talk about these things in workshops of Building Biblical Worldview: The Three Loves.)
Love, God’s way, knows no bounds. It breaks down walls, personally and systemically. It changes lives.
Love is powerful.
It is the right way to start the school year.
I am thankful for the three reminders below of the power of love for the beginning of the school year. Sometimes in the middle of the details, it is easy to look at the papers and programs and not look in the faces of the children.
Here are three encouragements to love that popped up the last couple of days. Strong reminders to me.
One, Pernille Ripp’s letter from her principal who says, “You can inspire them to take risks. You can encourage them when they are ready to give up. You can help them to see something within themselves they cannot yet see. You can expose them to new possibilities. You can help them turn mistakes into opportunities. But most importantly,you can show them you love and care for them.”
Second, Simon Jeynes wrote a LinkedIn post, “Love Your Students This Year!”: “And I ask you to do the same. Love your students this year.”
And, my richest reminder came from my friend, Danny. His school (which for the sake of full disclosure was my former school!) just had their back to school evening with parents. Danny wrote to tell me that the high school teachers were reminded to use the ideas from The Three Loves and to share with parents how they love God, love students, and love their subjects.
No one loves students more than Danny. Or, God. Or, his subject. But, Danny made a special point last night to trim his part talking about the subject and to make sure parents know his love and care for students.
He said, “Well, the reaction…was stunning. I’ve never quite experienced anything like it.”
My friends, love, God’s way is powerful. It changes lives. It is what parents want from us. But, even more it is what every student needs. Not to the the exclusion of learning, but as the foundation for it.
Please make sure that students are loved. And, that they know you love them by real words and actions, doing what is best for them, as God does for us. With sacrifice. Unconditionally.
Our world is full of conditional, earned love. Or, distortions of love as only feeling and fleeting as the moments change. Students need to know and feel they are loved. That someone is committed to the absolute best for each one of them.
Love, God’s way—the way that lets God give His son as in John 3:16—that love changes people. And, the world.
God bless you as you love students this year. Because He first loved us.
Three questions a teacher should ask every day. If he or she wants to create and sustain a powerful biblical worldview in all subjects, for all grades.
- How will the students know I love God today?
- How will the students know I love the subject–the truths I give them–today?
- How will each student know that I love him or her?
Love God’s way. Doing what is best for the other. Unconditional. Sacrificial.
A love based on commitment and not feeling. For God, for students, and for subject.
A love that is growing in passion and knowledge for Him, for students, and for the truths I give them.
These questions are foundational to teaching all subjects deeply and with a biblical worldview that happens because of who a teacher is and is becoming. Without love, we are empty and a noisy gong.
But, with love! Nothing can stop it. As the three loves come together in the classroom where God, teacher, students, and truth meet.
I am excited to introduce The Principal Connection. A new publication and service designed specifically for Christian school leaders of education, faculty, students, and parents. Anyone who is responsible to make school flourish, to put vision into practice every day with joy and results.
Why The Principal Connection? Here are five reasons you or someone you know needs The Principal Connection.
- The principal is the most important factor in student achievement and school success. The principal empowers faculty, encourages students, partners with parents, and makes learning and mission happen every day.
- Principals are extraordinarily busy. More and more is added to the principal’s role, with increasing expectations. The Principal Connection delivers what is needed in a way that fits the busy life of the principal and makes life work, with the goal of joy and sustainability.
- There is little direct support for the principal. There are options to support the traditional financial, board, and vision roles of the “head of school” (although many heads also have the principal roles). And, there are good resources for teachers. But little is available for the one who puts it all together in daily life and lives with the responsibility to achieve success, face-to-face every morning and night.
- Time or money is often scarce for principals to invest in ideas and growth that supports them and their unique roles. The Principal Connection fits the leader’s busy life with a four-page advisory letter delivered every month. Biblical, researched, and practiced. And, includes free personal consulting and support via email and phone. To round things out, we throw in the Yes! Memo twice a week to your inbox along with other free books and resources. And, we are always looking for new ways to serve the principal.
- A Christian school leader who wants to begin with biblical truth has even fewer resources. While there is some helpful research and practices from companies, they rarely start with God or consider the truth of God’s Word. The Principal Connection is designed specifically for Christian school principals and takes seriously the truths of God’s Word while bringing the best of a wide range of research and practices. Just for the Christian school principal and others who lead education, faculty, students, and parents.
Our guiding principles? Use truth. Make it practical for the busy Christian school principal. Make it affordable. Give good news for real life.
Two goals. One, make the daily life of the principal easier and sustainable over years. Two, help the principal succeed by anyone’s standards, leading faculty, students, and parents in thriving schools where students learn and mission is achieved.
I look forward to editing The Principal Connection. As a leader of Christian schools for 32 years, I have experienced the real, day-to-day life of the principal for 23 of those years, as well as head of school for 14 years and other leadership roles. God’s blessing of success as principal of a National Blue Ribbon Middle School and High School along with studies and presentations in Bible, Christian school education, and leadership will help me guide the “connections.” By God’s grace.
We want every Christian school principal and leader to have the joy and success we have had, professionally and personally. To be able to live an abundant daily life and enjoy God’s call leading Christian schools for years.
The Principal Connection begins with the 2016/2017 school year. More information will be available in the next few weeks. If you want details of what we offer with The Principal Connection and how it might help you, watch here or drop us a note at email@example.com and we will make sure you don’t miss a thing!
Great group discounts are available, and take about two weeks to get at the normal shipping speed in the U.S. A school leadership conference just handed out 100 copies. A school just ordered 55 for summer reading. Write firstname.lastname@example.org for quantity discounts and orders.
Building Biblical Worldview: The Three Loves is the perfect book for teachers to explore in the summer that gets to the heart of Christian school education. And, gets them ready for next fall.
The Three Loves is being used in schools from California to the Carolinas and Florida. And, in places like Panama, Indonesia, and Guatemala, including keynotes at the ACSI Latin America Teacher Convention this summer.
The basic idea is that a love for God, a love for students, and a love for subject results in great teaching with a biblical worldview. Naturally. No cost. Biblical. The foundation that makes a school’s own curriculum thrive.
More at Building Biblical Worldview.com.
Schools where great faculty growth happens consistently tend to share five common traits. These five traits help teachers grow beyond traditional “professional development” as the traits are imbedded in the soil of the school and produce fruit in the lives of faculty, year after year.
- Faculty Respected. Teachers are treated as adults and professionals, with much value placed on building trust and giving them choice.
- Growth Pursued. The culture is discontent with how things are, the conversation is about growing, and differentiation is used for maximum teacher growth.
- Community Active. Real, natural collaboration happens as the community supports each other and uses each person’s gifts and abilities for the others.
- Mission Commitment. Teachers know they are called to be a part of something big and gladly engage in growing that is focused on student learning and mission achievement.
- Intentional Leadership. Educational leaders discipline themselves to keep student and faculty learning as “job one” while leveraging their personal impact using qualified faculty leaders and mentors.
These five traits show up again and again in professional growth literature. And, in real life where faculty growth reaches its potential and bears fruit.
Go here for a graphic chart that summarizes these and how they are applied to “people” and “plans”for 10 specific actions. (These 10 actions are from an upcoming book, 10 Keys to Powerful Faculty Growth.)
The chart can be used now to help think about teacher growth in 2016/2017.
What else should be on it?
The second we named Aeowyn, from Lord of the Rings. She was crazy. If we told Aeowyn, “Good dog,” she would go wild, out of control. So we didn’t say it often.
People are starved for positive words, for affirmation that isn’t a thumbs up on social media. For someone to look at them and say, “Good job.”
Or, maybe a more fitting phrase for your situation: “Well done.” “Thank you for being here.” “You are appreciated.” “You make a difference.”
What keeps us from telling someone “Good job” today?
Perhaps we are so afraid that a compliment will be taken wrongly in our litigious society; everything seems to look like it is sexual harassment or favoritism, so we don’t say anything.
Perhaps we are afraid that a “Good job” comment will make the person think that we love everything he or she is doing, and somehow we are saying “You have no need to improve.”
Perhaps we are so wrapped up in ourselves that we don’t even think about how two words can change a life today.
Perhaps we are afraid that others will be hurt because we don’t tell everyone “Good job” at the same time.
Perhaps we don’t say it often enough, so when we do say “Good job” the overreaction is like my dog, Aeowyn.”
It is free. It is easy. It is big. It changes lives.
Let’s get over our issues and tell people, “Good job.” Expand it to specifics if you like, as in The One Minute Manager. Do whatever we need to get over what holds us back.
People need to hear it. We don’t live in a kind world. Or, a world that tells people something good and means it, with no agenda.
Wouldn’t you like for someone to say to you today, “Good job”?
If you want to understand teaching, children learning, parent relationships, institutions, focus, passion, love…well, most any of the things that make up what great teaching and learning is and what impedes, read the first chapter of The Beautiful Tree.
I am late to the party in reading this “Personal journey into how the world’s poorest people are educating themselves.”
But, the truths in the book are just as fresh today as when it was written in 2009.
Especially what learning and teaching really looks like.
Here are a few excerpts from “A Discovery in India,” the beginning of author James Tooley’s journey looking at learning in the poorest places.
Sajid-Sir, one school leader: “He clearly had a passion for teaching and inspiring others. Teaching he told me, kept him fresh, and it was his hobby as well as his livelihood; to him, he said, teaching was like acting. His aim was to instill a love for the subject he taught, mathematics. Mathematical allusions peppered many of his conversations.”
Passion. Inspiring. Fresh. Love! For subject. Comes from who he is, round the clock.
Focus and Quality Control
Sajid’s focus on new teachers, mostly untrained, using his Bachelor of Education method: “A lesson must have five parts, he said: an introduction, where the topic to be explored is fit into the context of students’ existing knowledge; announcement of topic; presentation; recapitulation; and evaluation (usually through homework). Before he allowed a new teacher to teaching in his school, he or she had to observe Sajid teaching. Then Sajid watched their first few lessons, made detailed notes, and challenged them on particular points.”
The beauty of a simple approach to lesson planning and student engagement. Combined with watching and doing by the teacher, with honest feedback on improvements. And, not letting anyone teach without assurance they are doing it well by first hand observation of the leader.
Engagement and Planning
A young teacher teaching about the derivation of salt and water from hydrochloric acid: “She was very clear, lively, animated, and engaged her class throughout. There was nothing labored about her approach; the whole lesson moved forward smoothly. She taught without notes and seemed completely on top of her subject. At the end, she summarized the lesson, expertly managing the class so that all seemed to have understood, and set a three-part homework assignment.”
The author says of her, “I had never liked chemistry in school: if she had taught me, I think I would have loved the subject.”
And, while the school managers were businessmen, they were doing well because they cared about children first. “They seemed dedicated to the children in their charge, going out of their way to help improve the education being offered.”
Their business was for children. Not children for the business.
Parents and Learning
I read a few complaints about the book being repetitive, but that is because Tooley finds the same thing in the poorest areas in other countries and tells those similar stories.
In the midst of his research and stories among the poorest in the world, you hear and see real learning, real love, real teaching, a real focus on students and doing the best for them and their families. You also see parents who are love their children and are committed to their learning.
I love the words repeated in the first chapter: “passion,” “love,” “knowledge,” “learning,” and “parents.”
Real learning is found here, stripped of funds and institutional concerns, yet making a difference in the lives of children.
Maybe there is something for us to learn…
Thanks to those who have been following Building Biblical Worldview: The Three Loves. About a week ago, the proofs for the paperback got here. We made a few changes and have now shipped our first batch of 100 books to a conference of Christian school leaders!
God is good. The way He is using the idea of The Three Loves has surprised us, from the creation of the idea to things popping up around the world, it is Him. It is a joy to watch what He is doing and be able to be a part of. We are blessed.
Love, God’s way, works. In student lives. It was His idea. And, His example in Jesus of a love that is committed to others before self, sacrificing, and life changing. So, The Three Loves just takes His ideas and shares them.
Again, thanks for those who have been following this project. If you want to share the idea with your group, please drop me a note for some steep group discounts of the paperback to use with teachers and leaders. You can also go to BuildingBiblicalWorldview.com.
We believe that love, God’s way, makes for great teaching and learning, and changed lives. Loving God, students, and subject is powerful. We would love to help however we can.
I am so excited for Wesley Jones, a Christian educator in Panama. Wesley has been sharing “The Three Loves” with Christian schools.
Now, Wesley is taking the model to an international schools conference. He is presenting the idea of “The Three Loves” in a session called “The Three Loves That Make a Difference in Teaching” on April 16.
He will share how loving God, loving students, and loving your subject makes “a positive, lasting impact of eternal significance” for a broad audience.
We know the power of “The Three Loves” when they come together in a Christian school teacher’s life and work, creating biblical worldview naturally and impacting student lives. As the teacher loves like God, does what is best for students, and increases in passion and knowledge, he or she becomes a teacher who changes lives. Students learn deeply about subject and God.
I look forward to how “The Three Loves” will go with a mixed group.
As Wesley and I have communicated, we believe that “The Three Loves” for God, students, and subject will serve Christian teachers well anywhere, Christian or public schools.
“The Three Loves” idea is about the teacher, and how great teaching happens because of who they are. It is not a program or curriculum.
So, it should provide a foundation for impact in student lives anywhere, anytime.
Love is powerful. God’s way.
In public schools, “The Three Loves” teacher may not be able to teach biblical worldview directly and freely by using God’s Word, The Book. But, the teacher herself becomes “the book” to be read by students, and to take advantage of the opportunities that will happen because the teacher loves God, students, and subject. And, the teacher can direct students to truth, a reality of life and subject with God.
By a biblical, unconditional, committed, sacrificing love.
Love like this, that shows itself in passion and deepening knowledge, changes lives.
I think Wesley is on to something.
Not only in Christian schools where “The Three Loves” create great and deep biblical worldview, but in public schools, “The Three Loves” will touch and change lives toward Him though the believing teacher.
(Building Biblical Worldview: The Three Loves is now available in paperback and ebook from Amazon and other places. Quantity discounts are available for school leaders and teachers, write email@example.com).